On this day of remembrance, our Facebook timelines are awash with glowing tributes to those who gave their lives in military service. Some of these tributes are personal, and some are crafted by some stranger and then shared by others. But you rarely see people add comments to these postings. If somebody in Hollywood has an affair with somebody else in Hollywood, you'll see dozens of sometimes heated observations about who is in the wrong and why. But men and women who have been sent to a foreign land to wage war in our name, and came back in a body bag if they came back at all? Crickets. And the few readers who do express an opinion about "why" they lost their lives are soon hushed, as if the causal chain of events is either not important or an "inappropriate" topic of conversation for this particular day. The problem is, for many of these folks, there never is an appropriate day to explore the wisdom or morality of the wars we engage in. And their aversion to this topic may lie in their inability to navigate the complexities of the ethics involved: